1. i can’t believe there are people in the world who haven’t heard this
2. go check out mika he’s great – important to note is that he’s mlm (he’s come out alternately as being gay, bisexual and ‘not interested in labels’ for a while) and a huge amount of his songs are about being mlm so in particular if ya need good mlm artists check him out
Seriously Mika is a gift and sunshine unto this sick sad world
mika is wildly popular in europe but his north american fanbase is like, six people and a napkin, and it’s killing me.
please listen to Mika’s entire discography because there are a LOT of classics that i’m 100% sure you’ve heard at some point in your life, all the love songs are implicitly gay, it’s great, but ESPECIALLY listen to No Place In Heaven (2015).
it always surprises me to remember that mika isn’t actually a part of the global populace’s general consciousness
because his debut album, life in cartoon motion, was such a huge part of my generation’s tween and teen years
like, i guarantee you, you can walk up to any swedish millennial, and they will still know every single line of his song lollipop
do you guys realize we can change our lives any time we want like you can just go ahead and delete ur blog, stop eating meat, shave your head, start running, tell that person you hate why you hate them so much, confess your love to someone and kiss them unexpectedly like why don’t we do that
i don’t see this talked about too much anymore, but you don’t have to chose between the labels lesbian or bi….ever. not if you don’t want to.
whether you don’t know whether or not you’re attracted to men (or you do know but you don’t really care!) or you’re not sure if you’re only attracted to nb people when they’re women-aligned. or you technically fit the definition of bi or lesbian, but the word doesn’t feel like “home” to you. or you simply want to leave wiggle room should your attractions or your perceptions of your attractions change over time. whatever the reason, it’s all okay
specific labels can do so much good for so many people but for others it can feel like a cage. if you want to only refer to yourself with broader terms like wlw, or sapphic, or a queer woman, or even just say “i’m into ladies”, i completely support you, live your life in a way and use words that make yourself feel the most comfortable, happy, and free
hey, quick psa. if someone online outright tells you “do not message me again” and “i can’t talk to you anymore” and/or blocks you, don’t push it. you actually gain more trust by listening to a request to leave me alone. that means you’re allowed one “goodbye”. not “sure but i need to ask you one more question” not “but i have to explain something”. no messaging me again months later like “hey are you still mad about that?” no making a sneaky side blog to talk to me or sending anons. fuck anyone who hurts someone or makes someone feel uncomfortable and won’t leave when asked. that is what makes me hate you.
if i ever decide you can talk to me again, i will explicitly tell you. otherwise stop.
people need to learn boundaries on this website. you’re not the father of my child or some shit there’s no “urgency” to your desire to talk to me. suck it up.
Psst, hey, Marilyn Monroe’s image as a freewheeling sexpot was a carefully constructed lie. The real Marilyn Monroe was a roiling tragedy and her life was an indictment of our society as a whole. She was orphaned after her mother had a schizophrenic breakdown, bounced around between foster homes where she was sexually abused, and married a 21-year-old at 16 to get out of being sent to an orphanage. Hugh Hefner published nude photos of her without her consent that were taken when she was 23 and desperate. She suffered severe anxiety and depression, which she coped with by drinking and using barbiturates, and was already a full-blown addict when she became famous in the mid-50s. Her career was one of exploitation, condescension and alienation, and she killed herself at 36. That Hugh Hefner, a man who was at best an unpleasant footnote in her life, felt entitled to be buried next to her is one more humiliation in a pop cultural landscape we should all be ashamed of.
i hate so much when rich people claim they could live on minimum wage
you can’t. you absolutely fucking can’t.
it’s not just about how literally impossible it can be or how the rich are so accustomed to luxury they wouldn’t be able to stomach being poor – it’s about the fact that any experience rich people have had with poverty was temporary.
“to prove that $8/hr is humane i lived on minimum wage for a month – and it was fine. you just have to spend wisely and be frugal.”
i promise any rich person who’s done (if they even have) something like that was ACHING by the end of that month. that week. they were edging out the end of that month thinking “after this i can go back to my cozy $100k a year, i just have to get this month over with”
it’s livable, right? this guy proved it. one month and he’s sure – it’s totally doable! he ate gross food and kept his lights off and his AC off and scrounged up change for gas for a month and it wasn’t THAT bad!
but man…. imagine if that was your whole life.
i’m sure they felt a little stressed after realizing how tight the budget was at the end of that month… imagine that but for years. years and years with no end in sight. you never have the relief of going back to your $100k salary and flat screen TV. it’s years upon years of pent up stress and anxiety
what if your car breaks down? what if you miss your bus? what if you have an unexpected charge on your card and overdraft? what if the kids want pizza? what if you call out sick from work? what if you can’t afford christmas presents?
and on top of the stress, you’re poor and you don’t have much free time because you take all the hours you can get to make ends meet. instead of cooking you have to eat shitty banquet and michelinas meals because delivery and takeout are too expensive. and the more tired you get, the more exhausted, the more shitty food you consume just to try to keep going.
and you probably don’t have good healthcare!
you’re stressed, you’re eating poorly, your body hurts from all the work and you’re too poor to pay for medical help, things like car repair fall by the wayside in order to provide, you’re sad, you start drinking to cope, etc
this is the cycle poor people are fucking trapped in. this is why the minimum wage is a fucking failure to all impoverished people in america.
this is the toll “just being frugal” takes on poor people after living for decades like that. adddiction, mental illness, lawbreaking – these things are associated with low class and poor people because it’s what happens to us and what we resort to when the system fails us.
there was a well off guy who made an (awful) documentary on minimum wage, he struggled hard. I say awful because he did it all for show.
so yeah, it’s completely true that rich people would not do well living on minimum wage.
the original apology i was typing was deleted when i deleted my old blog because of some harassment issues involving a tumblr user based on a misunderstandng and the way my tone was read as “antagonization” when several unbiased parties agreed that i was only doing my job as an administrator in a group chat.
that is irrelevant, however, and i digress from my main point of the actual apology i need to actually post instead of delaying and beating around the bush until i become but a distant, and very uncomfortable memory for everyone involved in the reign of terror that happened late ‘15 and stretched for nearly two years until around april ‘17 when my most recent ex datefriend / boyfriend had finally broken up with me because they realized how toxic i was.
this will be very text heavy and this will be an attempt to cover all the points that i need to apologize for. if i leave anything out (and i am sure i will, believe me. my memory is very bad when it comes to remembering explicit details), then feel free to message me (preferably off anon) to tell me so i can edit this post and include it.
there has been a handful of people i have done a entirely horrendous injustice to and i want to directly apologize to them. i am owning up finally to my actions and how they have impacted others. people who i have directly harmed will be apologized to in this post directly, however without names given. i will use old names or give them an aliases. their blogs will not be linked and i will message them if i happen to find their new blog with this apology.
the rest is under a readmore due to how text heavy this is.
So today, my
Twitter timeline was all about the planned movie of LORD OF THE FLIES, written
by two men, and remade with an all-female cast. I think it’s the worst movie idea
since two white men decided to rewrite ROOTS, and here are a few of the reasons why.
Wiliam Golding’s
LORD OF THE FLIES was originally written as a response to Ballantyne’s THE
CORAL ISLAND; the quite revoltingly racist tale of “civilized” white boys stranded
on a Polynesian island. It’s a piece of colonial propaganda: in it the boys are
decent, honest, Christian lads: the natives are ignorant, savage cannibals.
Golding’s book took that myth of white superiority and Empire and made of it a
fable about toxic masculinity, colonialism and the fact that “civilization” is
just a veneer.
Now the problem
is not the fact of just retelling a story with an all-female cast. We’ve seen
that before with GHOSTBUSTERS, and welcomed it as a step towards greater
inclusivity. Some stories are gendered for no reason: stories about gender, however, are not. And in this case, the basic problem is the fact that a couple of men are aiming to retell a fable about a patriarchal society while actually cutting out the role of the patriarchy – effectively ignoring the very society that made the story possible.
The boys (the
white, British, privileged boys) in Golding’s novel have been raised with a
fixed view of what it means to be a (civilized, white) man. Their descent into
savagery forces them to question their view of themselves, their role in society, their colonial Empire and their assumed superiority over others. To
remake that story with women (or indeed with POC) seems not only absurd, but looks
like an attempt to modify and soften the role of white men in colonialism. And
of course the fact that it’s actually written by men adds further insult to
injury. White men have already had their say on virtually every subject
imaginable for far too long: we need to hear women’s voices now – especially those
of women of colour.
That doesn’t
mean silencing men, or saying their voices shouldn’t be heard. But basically, the
principle of an all-female LORD OF THE FLIES is a lot like the All Lives Matter
movement. Yes, all lives matter. But some lives are more at risk than others. And
saying that All People Are Capable of Brutality overlooks the fact that some
groups are historically responsible for more brutality than others. It suggests
that everyone is equal within our society. And ironically, it does so (again, again) from a
position of historic privilege and entitlement: that of the straight white
male.
A much more
interesting take on the nature of society and violence is Naomi Alderman’s THE
POWER, which suggests that if society were different and gender roles reversed,
women might be as brutal as men. However, it’s fundamentally different (as well
as being more relevant) because by a woman, about women. It doesn’t make claims
it can’t justify; doesn’t try to whitewash the past, and doesn’t suggest that a
repressive female-led society would be any better.
So let’s not
pretend that this is about putting more women on the big screen. Sure, we’d all
like to see more women in film, but not in any old context. After all, the porn
industry is full of films starring women. What matters is listening to women’s
voices talking about themselves: not listening to men telling us what women are
like.
Listen I never said Kanye West was perfect, I have huge issues with the sexism and the entire Kardashian family, to be honest. And the fact that he “endorsed” Trump, although he did check into a mental health clinic a few days after that so who the hell knows if that behavior wasn’t influenced by his mental illness. That being said Taylor Swift didn’t just lie. Putting it down to Taylor lying is a huge understatement of what she did.
Let’s look at what Taylor did, shall we?
So Kanye West writes a song in which he mentions Taylor and making her famous. Now what does Kanye West do, he calls Taylor up told her about this song, she told him he was cool with it and at an award show, she would surprise everyone by saying she was in on it. Instead what she did was paint Kanye as this crazy, obsessed, evil black man. She denied ever getting a phone call from him.
After Taylor got exposed by Kim Kardashian for being a lying snake, does Taylor apologize? Does she ever act regretful? No, what she does is release a bullshit statement about not wanting to be “a part of this narrative” and how she didn’t know about the bitch part which makes her entire actions towards him okay.
Now if Taylor didn’t know about the bitch line and was upset about that, fine she could have been, however, that’s not what Taylor went after Kanye West for. She painted the entire narrative as her being just attacked out of the blue by him. Not knowing at all anything that was going on.
Fast forward to now, she has now had a song, all about Kanye entitled “Look what you made me do” a line many have pointed out is a word abuser’s use at their victims. The entire song gaslights Kanye West and again makes it appear as though she was his victim. Instead of owning up to her shit she is trying to yet again paint Kanye West as the evil black man coming after her.
She is not only copying Kanye’s merchandise from his Life of Pablo album, but she also is copying Beyonce’s Lemonade, particular from the song Formation, which is a song about a black woman’s struggle in America. On top of that, she is releasing her album on the day Kanye West’s mother died. And I call bullshit that she didn’t know. If anyone follows any of this shit closely you know that Kanye’s mother’s death deeply impacted him, it’s speculated that it was part of the reason his mental illness was triggered. Taylor Swift knows this as it was talked about during the VMAs stuff, and she is obsessed with “getting” Kanye West back for interrupting her VMA’s speech, which yes was stupid of him, but Kanye had a point when he did that. Kanye was attempting to stand up for black women when he did that, he did it in an incredibly stupid way but his heart was in the right place. Taylor has never got over that moment and has set out to make Kanye West forever look like the black man who is bullying her.
So no Taylor isn’t better than Kanye, Kanye may not be the best person on the planet, but you don’t need to be perfect in order to be a victim. And that’s what Kanye is right now, he is a victim of a white woman attempting to paint herself as this innocent, while he is an evil black man attacking her.
Now let’s get into some history here which is deeply upset and most white people, especially white women, want to ignore. Historically white women have lied repeatedly about black men attacking them, usually sexually, and this has led to the violent, brutal, deaths of hundreds of black men. One of the most famous cases was of Emmett Till, who in the 1950s (a time period that people are still alive from) was lynched by a group of angry white men after a white woman lied (she’s admitted it now) about him whistling at her.
These are the facts of this country, white women repeatedly lying about black men leading to them being murdered. So no Taylor Swift isn’t just lying about some random music bullshit, she is lying in a racially charged way. She is using systematic racism and white supremacy ideas to help her win this battle against Kanye.
And as I’ve stated many times that yes Kanye has his issues, but Kanye can still be affected by racism, the same way Taylor can be subjected to sexism. Those two things shouldn’t be conflated. Two wrongs don’t ever make a right, Taylor coming for Kanye in a racially charged way shouldn’t sit well with anyone. Especially in our current political climate where we have the KKK/Neo-Nazis marching through the streets, killing people, where we have black men and women being killed disproportionately by police officers, for usually non-violent crimes.
Taylor has a lot to answer for race-wise, her best friend is engaged to Jared Kushner’s brother. Breitbart News, home of the Alt Right Neo Nazi movement is praising her new song and using her lyrics over Pro-Nazi articles. She will not denounce Donald Trump, neither before or after the election. Isn’t it funny that “Feminist” Taylor Swift won’t denounce our “Grab them by the Pussy” President? Taylor uses feminism when it pleases her agenda but won’t stand for it when it would affect her fan base and ticket sales.
And I call bullshit on anyone saying she doesn’t have to state political opinions. We don’t live in that world, anyone. That’s over. We are living in an era where our own President won’t condemn Neo Nazis after they murdered someone in the streets. We are in a critical and crucial time in American history, anyone who doesn’t see that is fooling themselves. If you’re a big name celebrity like Taylor, who has been political in the past, and your staying silent, that’s all we need to hear. Taylor’s silence on these matters speaks for her.
Taylor shouldn’t be given a free pass by anyone for using systematic racism, just because the man she’s using against isn’t perfect himself. That isn’t how victimhood works. We are under this false notion that in order to be a victim you have to be perfect. The same way Taylor Swift was a victim of sexual assault when a man groped her, Kanye West is a victim of racism by Taylor Swift. Her attempt to rewrite the narrative to make herself seem like a victim isn’t okay at all. Nobody should be supporting her in this at all. She is in the wrong here.
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